The Power of our Differences United: How to answer your calling (Donation-Based Group Coaching)Wednesdays from 4 to 5 pm (Eastern Standard Time) on Zoom.
This is a donation-based gathering (recommend $10 to $20 dollars) for people who want more practice and information about how you:
- answer your calling,
- integrate the three primary patterns,
- launch your unique part of uniting and unleashing the power of our differences
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We will engage in a variety of experiential activites and have lots of share time where we support one another to integrate our head, heart, and gut.
WHAT’s the POINT?
1. effectiveness accross differences
2. recognition of their own privilege and how to use it efficaciously
3. impact on others, generally, as intended across differences
4. sense of solidarity across differences
5. pride without prejudice
6. ability to “refuse both silence and violence”
7. ability, clarity, and courage to withdraw participation in violent aspects of systems
8. capacity to catalyze meaningful systemic change w/o effort
9. greater internal stability…less rising and falling on external conditions
10. experiencing greater clarity, purpose, passion
11. ability to hold others accountable to increased integration w/o blame or shame.
What past participants would like you to know
“Be prepared for a high feedback environment”
“Love the deep dive inside myself – so challenging”
“It’s about taking complete responsibility for my life”
“This is not a place for venting”
“It is a place where we can learn to speak from solidarity and strength”
“It is a place where we learn how see and honor our differences and commonality
Want more support? If you’d like a free introductory coaching session, let us know! Typically, we charge $200 per hour for consultation, assessment, or coaching–the packages below allow us to offer significant savings:
If you’re unfamiliar with the Power of Difference Model you can take the RPQ or PDA or get a sample here or by downloading the protocols at the bottom of the page:
The Three Patterns
These following three protocols are based on The Power of Difference Model (PDM) which describes three patterns of thinking, of belief, of behavior, worldview, managing fear, and moral superiority, related to our differences. Each of these three patterns has both assets and limitations. We can use these patterns from a “needy”, “grasping” place…or a powerful, caring, present, and potent place. Ultimately, the goal is for each of us to integrate the assets of all three in a way that feels good, strong, clear and connective! When a person does not act in solidarity with others, it is typically, from one of these three patterns and each one requires or invites a different response. These three responses are the “Solidarity Protocols.
Note: If you notice that one of these patterns below feels “right” or “comfortable” to you…it is probably YOUR primary pattern!
Sensitivity – In this pattern, I value the power of understanding others’ perspectives as the way to safety for all of us. I recognize and deeply value differences and recognize them everywhere! This is the primary asset of Sensitivity. On the other hand, I can over-focus on political correctness out of a fear of offending others…and I can become frozen or confused. In my effort to get others to “get it” I can become exhausted and patronizing and miss connecting personally. My learning edge lies in the Strength pattern: courage, powering up, being ferocious but in a way that refuses both silence AND violence. This pattern can sound like: “If only we could get our supervisor to take this workshop” or “I’m not sure what do to, I don’t want to offend anyone.” Here are a few examples in which these authors are “teaching” the rest of us, and assuming they have understanding we don’t! You might notice how it feels when someone makes this kind of assumption about you.
Oneness – In this pattern, the lover archetype, I value the power of unity as the way to safety for all. I recognize an important truth: that we are one human family, that we are all one. This is the primary asset of Oneness. On the other hand, I can focus so strongly on our common humanity that I can impact others as devaluing and minimizing differences that might be important to the other person. I might seek to a “spiritual bypass” – opting to move beyond the sometimes “messy” world of relationships, challenge, and hardship that our differences can seem to bring. My learning edge lies in Sensitivity: understanding the profound importance of difference. I want to learn to recognize the need for people to identify for themselves what matters. It can sound like: “I don’t see disabilities, I just see people,” “All Lives Matter” or “Talking about difference just causes divisions,” “The only race I care about is the Human Race!” Below are a few examples. Oneness can be a way to feel safer in a dominant group for someone who is from a marginalized group and concerned about “sticking out” and being “targeted.” Or it can be a way for a person in a dominant group to minimize another person experience (a form of “gaslighting”) as a way to maintain power and privilege.
Strength – In this pattern, the warrior archetype, I value the power of courage, decisiveness, clarity, and a noble willingness for self-sacrifice as the ways to create safety for my “own” group (familial, racial, organizational). These are my gifts. On the other hand, I may employ denigration of the other: dominance, aggression, evaluation of difference, and the identification of “other” as “enemy.” My learning edge lies in Oneness: unity, commonality, connection to all. The Strength pattern can sound like: “People should just stop complaining and take care of business”, “the real problem is reverse discrimination,” ”I stand with the police.”
Check out or download the Solidarity Protocols: What to say/do when…